Dishonestly honest

As Salam..

Honesty is virtue, Yes, we all agree on that fact. However, we sometimes find it hard to be honest to other people, what more to ourselves. We deny ourselves to the actual facts and reinforce ourselves to the beliefs that we suscribed to. This can be done in response to disbelief. Sometimes, people are dishonest because of  personal gain. 

Recently, I found out that one of the hindrances of being frank and honest is the need to not deliberately offend the other person. This trait is very prevalent in our own  conservative society. Sometimes, it may be inappropriate to the point that it may be ridiculous (the other person is). I learned that people may be so tight up that their tongues may be tighter to tell and warn the other person on the harm he or she may get from playing with fire.

It is strange that the spirit within a solidarity can't be used to protect the whole herd. Brothers and members of a clan are supposed to look out for each other. Tell them if they are doing it wrong. Tell them even if it may offend them. Tactful words and proper explanations will let them see the light at the end and understand the reason on such direct-to-your-face tell. Ibn Hazm mentioned, "anyone who cares about your friendshp is willing to criticize you, while those who make light of your fault show they do not care" (1). 


There is a nice hadith that I came across in an article (1). The prophet said that the best companion is the person whose appearance reminds you of God, whose speech increases you in knowledge and whose actions remind you of the hereafter. It is really challenging to find these natures in a friend and companion of late. Appearance is most often  deceiving. Despite this, good thoughts towards a person is most welcomed. But, in the event of his or her canard acts, we are vindicated enough not to include them in our future communications. That said, forgiveness is still virtue and must be uphold at all times.

If you don't tell them of the things that puts them in the path of sin and evil, or about to bring rancour of others, they will not know and will never know. Once told, at least the decision they make after that is an informed one. Never think that by just keeping mum, while pretending as if nothing happened will keep away troubles. 

It just shows how dishonestly honest one is.

References:( Not according to the proper referencing method)
1. http://www.suhaibwebb.com/personaldvlpt/purification-heart/the-best-companions/