Sit and Talk

In our fast paced life, yes, even here in this part of the world, we need to reflect on ourselves.

What have we done today? Have we offended anybody of late? Have I been productive or anti productive of that sorts? 

We need to sit and talk. At least, if not talking to anyone else, "talk" to ourselves. But, be sure not to do it in public. You may be fully conscious in your conscience and be very sure that you have not gone haywire, but this sort of oddity is not taken lightly by the public. Perturbed, the police will be called in to remove you off the streets. Have a little discussion and a minor debate within yourself. This reminds me of the old disney cartoon that depicts the angel and the devil sitting on either side of the shoulders of a boy, quarelling, in an attempt to influence the boy over good and evil. Self discussion will be something like that, in the hope, that our ethical qualities prevail.

"Brother, do you have time? I need to sit and talk with you on my research methodology"

" I am stuck in in my paper, I need really sit and talk with you about this"

"I have abusiness proposition for you, when I get to KB, we need to sit and talk". 

Yes, sit and talk, I have been bombarded lately. It means to stop from what ever you are doing. If you need to pay the bills, don't! have a cup of coffee. no no! Have to go to the washroom, nope you may not. Nope, not that bad. Let the stillness of time engage in you. If you have been pacing away, hold it, make time for yourself to stop and ponder.  Such phrase, when repeatedly mentioned, will make you think and reexamine the concept behind it. 

What does it mean? It just tells you to make time for yourself to ponder over things that is going to be and has been. Stop and ponder is actually a double edge sword. It aplies to the idiom, look before you leap. But in other hand, medically morbid term, postmortem. What causes a failure? Why is treatment A better than treatment B? What have I said wrong that the other person sulks everytime he or she sees my face?

"I don't have the time". This is such a common reply from a seemingly white collared professionals. Meetings here and there, appointment with new clients, operations that will take so many hours, oncalls, busy clerking new patients,... and the list just go on. Oddly, they will have the time to scroll on an update their status on facebooks, watch movie during work, have long morning breaks, not to mention the long teabreaks. Honestly, from 8am till 5pm, how much time did we really spend working? If there is no time, then, will there be time after work? But, hey, when will work actually finish so that you could make time for yourself?

There is no such thing as not having time to ponder on oneself. For everything there is a season. One will not have time if it is not allocated for. What about the time before we sleep every night? Ahh... that will be a good moment to reflect back on the day and be objective for the days ahead. If we have not forgiven anybody yet, except during idulfitri, well, this is the time. By forgiving, we are removing the anger and revenge from our hearts of that person. Adversaries will revert to friendships. Husbands would be wonderful to their wives.

As mentioned in the Quran, "By time, verily, men is in loss.. " This indeed is true. Even when we think that we do not have enough time for ourselves, what more if we have to make time to accomodate others? We are not isolated islands. No man is an island. We still need to be in contact with the other individuals. When? Well, then we still need to make time. In this essence, it is a matter of prioritising. Working mates are equally important. Without them, organization can falter at the destruction of teamwork. The job pays our monthly bills. However, family is still our main priority. A working wife, still need attend to the welfare of her husband and family. A responsible husband too. There is no such thing as the husband works and when at home, everything is left to the wife. The prophet cooks and sweeps too you know.

Yes, I have managed to sit and think for awhile now to discuss this matter. Sit and talk is one of the human needs, that subconsciously, we never attest to even having been through it many times. It comes in many forms, thinking aloud, chit chatting, a group discussion or even a convention. We hope to achieve something positive from our "sit and talk". Well, the national's independance involved sitting and talking. 

It is not just the sitting and talking. What bothers inside is, if the sitting and talking leads to something positive. Is it worth the time spend? The answer lies in our prioritising capability.